I've been active on Twitter for upwards of two years now and have seen many,
many interesting tweets. I use Twitter to get news updates, celebrity gossip, beauty tips, and even updates on my friends (yes, I do care what you ate for lunch and will gladly tweet about mine too!). Lately though, and when I say "lately" I mean in the last 10 months, I've been noticing a new type of update on my timeline that I don't quite appreciate. This is what I refer to as a
Beauty Bully Tweet, and it really makes me shake my head.
What is a Beauty Bully tweet?
We've all seen one...it's the tweet that states a beauty or fashion no-no, like
"Women over 55 shouldn't wear neon pink lipstick" with a link to a twitpic of an older lady wearing pink lipstick sitting on a bus, minding her own business. Then other tweeters retweet with their comments like
"OMG I can't believe that old hag thinks she looks good"...and an entire Twitter conversation about this woman has begun.
If it's not an old lady who's wearing the wrong lipstick it's a young girl whose skirt is too short, a bigger women who's pants are too tight for her, or a mid-30's woman who really needs to dye her hair. Regardless of who the target is, and what beauty or fashion crime he or she has committed, this Tweeter feels the need to 1) judge the person, 2) take a photo of them, and 3) publicly post the photo and the criticize person without them knowing.
This, to me, is a form of bullying and is absolutely unacceptable for so many reasons. Firstly,
the fact that the Tweeter is judging a person's beauty/fashion in that way is just mean. If someone is wearing a pair of pants that just don't fit right, who cares? Let them be. If it's not visually appealing, turn your head and stop looking. Secondly,
what gives the Tweeter the right to take a picture of a stranger and post it on the Internet without his/her consent? Even worse, the innocent stranger is being made fun of without even knowing. How is this is any way, shape or form an acceptable way for adults to behave?
Imagine being that person. You are minding your own business, waiting for the bus so you can get to work while someone you don't even know is taking your photo and making fun of you on an Internet forum. Imagine if that person somehow came across the tweet - can you imagine how embarrassed and humiliated they'd feel???
What's even more upsetting is that the Tweeter would probably
never say anything to the stranger in person because he or she would never have the balls (excuse my language) to go up them and tell them their hair is just wretched. If you wouldn't say it in person, why is it okay to say it on Twitter?
I'm quite shocked at the number of Beauty Bully Tweets I have come across over the past year. If you are a person who engages in this type of behaviour, I urge you to stop. It's just plain mean. We all know of the psychological damage that bullying can do to children and our hearts break when we hear repeated news stories of children committing suicide simply because they are being made fun of. Well guess what? Just because you are an adult and just because the person doesn't know you are doing it, it doesn't make it okay.
Let's grow up and be human beings again - STOP with the Beauty Bullying!